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Coffee & Grit 1. Hello & Welcome.

Updated: Dec 16, 2021



 

The Grit Theory Presents: Coffee & Grit Hosted by Lindsey Mayo. 1. Hello & Welcome Today Lindsey introduces Coffee & Grit and we discuss the vision for the show and why it matters. Highlights include:

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08;06;29;24 - 08;06;25;07

Lindsey

Hello and welcome to coffee and great, I'm your host, Lindsey Mayo, joined by Jon Mayo. How are you?


08;06;25;03 - 08;06;23;22

Jon

Good morning, everyone. I'm doing well.


08;06;22;15 - 08;06;18;03

Lindsey

We have our coffee this morning. We do. It's nice and hot. It burned my mouth a little bit much.


08;06;17;27 - 08;06;16;10

Jon

You did. And then you tried to throw the mike at me.


08;06;16;06 - 08;06;15;23

Lindsey

I did not.


08;06;15;08 - 08;06;11;25

Jon

I got you. You have to what we did? No, I didn't. He tried to hit me with the cords.


08;06;11;16 - 08;06;08;26

Lindsey

I did do that on accident, but it was not purposeful.


08;06;07;23 - 08;06;02;15

Jon

All right, well, the jury of our peers decide that, okay, we take you to court for husband abuse.


08;06;01;15 - 08;05;53;28

Lindsey

Except for that, we have no video today. So my word against your word? It's not the truth in all of our society right now.


08;05;53;20 - 08;05;50;21

Jon

It is, and I might add, a significant disservice in that case.


08;05;50;16 - 08;05;49;07

Lindsey

Yeah, I like it.


08;05;48;26 - 08;05;47;19

Jon

Or disadvantage, I should say.


08;05;46;14 - 08;05;32;13

Lindsey

All right, y'all. Anyways, enough of our morning banter. We are here to talk about coffee and great and what the show is going to be, sort of hopefully we'll probably it is going to be a little bit of a build as you go.


08;05;31;00 - 08;05;06;28

Lindsey

But really, it'll be more of things that we find value in and things that I felt like would be worth talking about and sharing with other people more than just friends. Just try and reach a larger audience. I think that right now in our culture and our specifically our country, I really feel like we need to try


08;05;06;28 - 08;04;45;02

Lindsey

and band together instead of be divisive and really fight for freedom, because if we don't, we're going to lose it all. And I think that's a really scary thought, and that's not necessarily what coffee and great will always be about, but I think it'll also be centered around that in the aspect that you need to equip yourself


08;04;45;02 - 08;04;38;27

Lindsey

and surround yourself and your family with friends of the same like mindedness.


08;04;36;19 - 08;04;22;09

Jon

Yeah, in my understanding, because this to be clear, this is your show. But as I get to be your height dealing in, I'm in a secondary role here. Right, right. I don't really think the show's about coffee at all.


08;04;21;28 - 08;04;20;20

Jon

I think this is the cheeky name.


08;04;20;12 - 08;04;05;06

Lindsey

It was more of a cheeky name because like coffee and great like great for us is what we're defining it as bravery, determination and courage. But I was also doing like a play on words where coffee and great like you have your grits in the morning type of thing.


08;04;05;06 - 08;03;50;02

Lindsey

So this way it's just short little snippets of things that I find value in and things that I think would be easy and quick, fast lessons as we go along. It'll probably be a lot more of a jump right in.


08;03;50;02 - 08;03;37;01

Lindsey

Here are the things that I want to talk about and send you off on your day type of thing. But today it's just kind of introducing the show, giving us comfortable with everything, you know, making sure that it it all works out, OK?


08;03;35;29 - 08;03;29;27

Jon

Yeah, and if I'm not mistaken, I get a really beat on the drum of calling men out. Right? Men to take.


08;03;29;27 - 08;03;10;26

Lindsey

Yeah. And this is my shot to kind of pull on women of all aspects of all walks of life. I have I have a very diverse background. I have worked as a adult, you know, and I remember being a teenager all too well.


08;03;10;11 - 08;02;47;15

Lindsey

I come from a split family, so my parents divorced when I was younger and remarried, and I have a lot of added on siblings, which is really cool. So I have a a very, very diverse background. And then you and I met in college and we ended up having Jeremiah and I actually had to finish up my


08;02;47;15 - 08;02;34;16

Lindsey

entire degree and I was working full time. So I think a lot of people don't necessarily know a lot about my story in that aspect. They kind of see me as, Oh, you guys met, you got married, and now you have kids in your stay at home, mom.


08;02;34;03 - 08;02;14;23

Lindsey

And that is currently a good bit of what I do, but it's not all of who I am or what I do. And so I think that that's kind of just, you know, getting people to to understand where I'm coming from to kind of see that I can attempt to help add value in hard situations or just


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Lindsey

in life in general. We walk through a lot of different things day in and day out as a couple, as a family, as a person and I, I'm hoping that someone somewhere will hear something and it will add value to their life and that they'll continue to, you know, move in a different direction or feel like that


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Lindsey

was encouragement and keep going.


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Jon

I really think that hits the nail in the head. I'm excited for this opportunity, and I know we have a couple of close family, friends, both male and female, that are super excited to get to hear more about how you, how you click and how you see the world and be encouraged and kind of called out by


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Jon

the things that we'll talk about through your show. And what's exciting about it to me is you are a very multifaceted person. And I think that one of the benefits will be that you're going to get to re, honor, re bring forth honor to being a stay at home mom.


08;01;18;10 - 08;01;06;00

Jon

I don't think there's anything. I think that's one of the greatest callings that we can have is to be a mother and to keep a home and to do those things. But that is not the all defining piece, right?


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Jon

It's not a it's not a chain. It's a facet of who you are. Hmm.


08;01;00;23 - 08;00;34;00

Lindsey

Well, and to me, being a stay at home mom, it doesn't mean that. I understand I'm not earning a tangible income, but what I'm doing, I feel like is almost more important than a tangible income because I'm currently raising four sons to be men, to be leaders, to go out into the world and not only stand for


08;00;34;00 - 08;00;15;17

Lindsey

our rights, for our freedoms, but then to stand for those that they love and that they're loyal to in each one of them are excited to be married one day and have children. I get that they're young and those can obviously change from now until they're teenagers, which is totally fair.


08;00;15;12 - 09;59;59;02

Lindsey

But the fact that they have those desires and those those loves right now are really they matter to me because it means that you know what we're doing day in and day out in the struggle of picking up all the laundry.


09;59;58;28 - 09;59;35;15

Lindsey

There's a lot of laundry and all of the toys and all the mundane, small things this season that we're in. It sometimes feels hard and we talk about this a lot, but each season becomes different. The change, the challenges become difference, and currently we're working through managing emotions and that we're not allowed to punch people in public


09;59;35;15 - 09;59;13;12

Lindsey

or destroy things in public. And why? Why does that matter? And is there an appropriate time for that? And just kind of, you know, teaching them that our impulses aren't necessarily always right? I grew up, my father always taught me to think logically before I thought emotionally say what I know, and it's hard.


09;59;13;02 - 09;58;59;21

Lindsey

It is a hard thing to do because you always want to go with your emotion first. But he always told me that your emotions lie to you day in and day out, and they do because you can't go off of what you feel.


09;58;59;13 - 09;58;45;04

Lindsey

So you kind of have to, you know, step back, take a pause and go, OK, let's look at this logically. Are there pros are there? Cons Is this worth walking down this path? Is it not? Now, that doesn't mean I've always thought about something.


09;58;45;04 - 09;58;27;20

Lindsey

Logically, there are plenty of times I have done emotional responses to things and it gets me in trouble a lot. And I've learned the value in thinking through that logically and trying to pass that on to our sons and just continue on, you know, and even with friends, be like, OK, well, let's take a step back and


09;58;27;20 - 09;58;12;20

Lindsey

see see it from a different perspective. I'm a big, big perspective talker. I'm always going, OK, well, but what's it like from that perspective or what's it like from, you know, their perspective? And did somebody else see it and interpret it the same way?


09;58;12;12 - 09;57;57;09

Lindsey

It's like that game like telephone, you know, so it's like by the time it starts with one person and it gets through the 10th person, how twisted and different was everybody's perspective or what they thought you said? So I think that that's really important to.


09;57;56;05 - 09;57;33;03

Jon

Yeah, in one of the things I really admire and value in you is that despite your emphasis on understanding the different perspectives that people bring to the table, you did not mince words or dilute the truth. Through that exercise and gaining empathy and understanding, you will speak what you believe to be true, even if it can sting


09;57;33;03 - 09;57;19;22

Jon

and you don't do it in a callous fashion whatsoever. But you walk this walk in which you demonstrate and are teaching the boys, and it's been immensely beneficial to our relationship where you'll speak, what you believe to be true.


09;57;19;17 - 09;57;05;13

Jon

Whether that's I'm getting fluffy again, you know, I'm putting on some poundage over time. And I ask you, how am I putting on weight? You're like, yes or no? Me, like, seriously? Or, you know, someone asked your opinion, you'll just tell them carte blanche.


09;57;05;13 - 09;56;55;06

Jon

And it's not in this Khowst way that doesn't take into account the perspective of the other person, but it's in a way that, like, Hey, the truth will set you free if you have the courage to embrace it.


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Lindsey

Yeah. And I'm also a very deep thinker. I don't necessarily just like, quickly respond to something.


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Jon

No.


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Lindsey

I have to really think and ponder because I want my words to matter. I want what I say to carry weight and for it to be the most thought out version of what I want to say, because I've learned so much as I'm getting older that what you say matters and how you say it like your words


09;56;21;19 - 09;56;06;22

Lindsey

have immense power. Hmm. And it it's not just the words, but it's the action behind the words. So it's really easy to say things, but then it's also it's that much harder to be able to back it with action.


09;56;06;12 - 09;55;57;08

Lindsey

And so if you're not continually day in and day out acting out what you believe, then the words that you say have no value.


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Jon

Great, and I think the tie in from what I'm hearing from you is that the reason the words you're so intentional is because you will follow them with action. Yeah. So it's kind of like the gold standard for currency, where back in the day a dollar was the equivalent value of an ounce of gold.


09;55;42;06 - 09;55;29;02

Jon

You know, that's called the gold standard. It wasn't diluted. Right, right. You had that to lean on. Now your word is only as valuable as your willingness to live it out. Walk it out. And that's something you do phenomenally well.


09;55;28;05 - 09;55;09;07

Lindsey

And that's that's why I want, you know, coffee and grit to kind of go. I want to be able to speak on the things that I'm currently acting on to speak on the things that I I've seen. And I've not just been like, Oh, this was a fleeting thought and, you know, disrupt someone's life for something.


09;55;09;07 - 09;54;48;27

Lindsey

I think that that's really catastrophic when you do things like that. But I also really want coffee and great just to kind of be an open space to be able to create that community of like mindedness. And like I was saying, you know, just kind of pull on different strings of the people, see that you have more


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Lindsey

than one not necessarily version of yourself, but that you are a multidimensional person, not just like one, and be fixed in that because we do kind of get lost in that aspect as moms of like, this is my only thing that I have value in.


09;54;32;00 - 09;54;15;15

Lindsey

And I think that that's really unfair of society to kind of make stay at home moms specifically even feel that way or working moms feel horrible for not getting to, you know, whatever their cases may be. Be a stay at home mom.


09;54;15;14 - 09;54;02;08

Lindsey

I think it's really horrible that we have all this like it's right versus left all the time. And I think that we need to find common ground because we're all just trying to raise children and, you know, move forward from that.


09;54;02;01 - 09;53;44;22

Lindsey

And not everyone has children. So I want to, you know, kind of pull on that aspect to you and add value in those ways. And I have a lot of friends who are either married or kind of single and whatnot that they're not, you know, I want to be able to add value to them.


09;53;44;22 - 09;53;30;20

Lindsey

And sometimes if you don't talk about kids, like, what do you have to talk about? And so just trying to figure out, how do you how do you have multiple types of friendships after you become married and after you have children?


09;53;30;20 - 09;53;20;28

Lindsey

And I think that's kind of hard to do because you kind of try to gravitate towards, you know, the seasons of life that you're in. But yeah, it's kind of hard.


09;53;19;26 - 09;53;04;11

Jon

Yeah. And what you just identified also is there's this double edged blade, this dagger that it's really unfair that women experience between the professional and the let's raise the next generation of competent comparable human beings. You know.


09;53;04;10 - 09;52;51;18

Lindsey

Yeah, it's like it's unfair versus the other and it is completely unfair. And then you also have like you have some some dads who are stay at home dads and they're frickin rocking it, but they are like the 1% of the 1% type of thing.


09;52;51;09 - 09;52;37;02

Lindsey

But then you also have like the dad who is, you know, married to the stay at home mom. But like, why does it feel like all of that falls to the stay at home mom? Like, why are we not seeing that other perspective?


09;52;37;02 - 09;52;20;07

Lindsey

And why are women not bringing their husband into that arena of like we are stay at home moms? But most of the time, the stay at home moms have a frickin power house spouse who's supporting them from the sideline and co-parenting with them.


09;52;20;07 - 09;52;08;27

Lindsey

But nobody talks about that because it's that, you know, in your Instagram and your Facebook and stuff, it says one by one little squares that you're only seen one part of it. And I think that's unfair, too.


09;52;08;18 - 09;52;01;27

Jon

Yeah. You know, in what you're hitting on is like, we get jokes about, Oh, you're going to have dad do that with the kids or you're going to. That's like, Yeah, he's not.


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Lindsey

I'm not a sitter.


09;52;01;06 - 09;51;47;29

Jon

I'm not hired. Help, y'all, like I'm their father. But what's amusing about it is it is that two way street. one of the things that, as your husband, I find immensely attractive about you is your grit is your character is your mama bear side.


09;51;47;08 - 09;51;33;07

Lindsey

I really identify with a llama. So my my mother in law sent me this thing this one time and it says I'm more of a momma llama. I'm relaxed and laid back, but mess with my kids and I'll kick you in your face.


09;51;33;06 - 09;51;20;02

Lindsey

Yeah. And that's really me. I am. I'm pretty like chill laid back. Like, I don't do a whole lot of drama. My boys fall and scrape their, you know, whatever, break a collar bone. We're like, Hmm. All right, here we go again.


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Jon

Back to the heart.


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Lindsey

And yeah, and it's just, you know, just like, kind of like, Oh, wow, that sucks, but we're going to handle it calmly and cool on this than the other. But like, you messed with my kid and I will destroy you.


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Lindsey

Correct. There are no ands or buts about it.


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Jon

And unapologetically.


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Lindsey

Oh for sure, unless my child was in the wrong. And then that child gets destroyed because I'm not about just standing 100% behind. I child through thick and thin, that thin, better be. Well, I'm going to help you.


09;50;50;13 - 09;50;38;12

Lindsey

In fact, we had this conversation the other day. It was like the boys were arguing about something. Someone got mad at somebody else and there's a lot of blame being thrown around and I go, OK, well, were you?


09;50;38;11 - 09;50;27;19

Lindsey

You know, did you see this? Did you do that? And he goes, No, and I go, I can't help you. I can't see behind you and argue for your cause if you weren't even going to be present to see what's happening.


09;50;27;06 - 09;50;22;11

Lindsey

Hmm. So it was like, y'all are going to have to just kibosh it and move on.


09;50;21;26 - 09;50;05;06

Jon

Well, and that goes back to we're fighting the same fight. We're we're raising our kids to be young men that have accountability. You are cultivating that same character and yourself. I'm cultivating the same character in myself, and we're all cultivating that as a core fundamental aspect of who our family is right?


09;50;04;27 - 09;49;47;07

Jon

And what I'm hearing and what I see in this show is an opportunity to now address the full spectrum of our community and our are pretty frickin amazing country that we love. And to take a stand for freedom and to take a stand for all these great ideals by focusing on the family unit, by focusing on the


09;49;47;07 - 09;49;38;10

Jon

individual and with coffee and grit, we get a poor life into the ladies of our of this great place in the families.


09;49;38;09 - 09;49;16;16

Lindsey

And really learn to take the focus off of the ME centered society, because that's one of the things that I I can't stand it. Life is not about just you. We were not, you know, existing and created to be by oneself.


09;49;16;07 - 09;48;58;20

Lindsey

We are created to be in community and that means looking out for one another. I'm for sure one of those people who if I have to give you the shirt off my back, I absolutely will. I will go through hell or high water to be able to care for someone and to care for them.


09;48;58;20 - 09;48;42;26

Lindsey

Well, because not only does it set an example for my boys, but because I want to be able to love that other person and show them that they're not alone. Because when you become alone, that's a scary place to be, and a lot of dark things can happen.


09;48;42;17 - 09;48;25;22

Lindsey

And I think that we were called in general as people to be a society together to have friendships, to be kind to the person at the store, at the gas station. I need to talk. Nobody even says hello anymore.


09;48;25;15 - 09;48;08;29

Lindsey

And it's absolutely horrible, as we were meant to have community in small town USA like old school, small town USA. Everybody knew everybody. And now it's like if you knew the person across your street, it's a good day, which is ridiculous.


09;48;08;29 - 09;47;57;14

Lindsey

I think you should know absolutely everybody on your street if you live on the street, even if you're just introducing yourself and saying, Hi, we're here, this is where we're at. If you need anything, we'll help.


09;47;56;28 - 09;47;51;01

Jon

When I think that's another one of your passions, right? You want to plant, build, grow, foster and encourage community.


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Lindsey

Absolutely. It's a very, very, very big thing on my heart.

 


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