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7. Don't Sit Out _ Lindsey Mayo


 

Today we get to sit down with Lindsey Mayo and discuss the greater effects of these challenges on the Mayo home. Why she decided to pick up the challenge when Jon failed, and how she engages with the unending trials and difficulties that life presents all while raising 4 wild boys (Also the 100 Day Challenge as discussed in episode 4 is FINISHED!).

Highlights include:

  • When chaos strikes, calm down

  • Take one step at a time

  • We are in this together

  • The power of action

  • The strength of compassion

  • The only guarantee to failure is to sit out and not try

  • Leading with love

** A NOTE FROM JON: "When I heard about an old man who introduced the woman he was with as, "the woman who walks besides me," that statement had no trace of possessiveness or ownership in it; she wasn't "his" anything. I finally understood the quote "love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction." -Antoine de Saint-Exupery Lindsey, thank you for Co-Journeying through this wild adventure we call life. -Jon Did you find value in today’s conversation? SHARE IT!

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08;06;00;05 - 08;05;41;15

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Well, good morning, everybody, welcome to our seventh episode of The Grit Theory, I am here, joined with I'm joined by Jon Mayo, Ello. Good morning. And our special guest today is none other than the magnanimous, the infinitely patient and of course, pretty.


08;05;41;03 - 08;05;35;01

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Lindsey Mayo. She loves that. Yeah. We're so glad you're here today.


08;05;34;13 - 08;05;33;17

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Thank you for having me.


08;05;33;04 - 08;05;32;05

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

How are we feeling?


08;05;31;17 - 08;05;24;26

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I'm excited and nervous because you both are looking at me like, you're going to have some questions already that I'm not willing to answer or ready to answer.


08;05;24;16 - 08;05;09;14

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Well, I just love this. This is going to be my treat today, because if you if we do get whole, you know, crazy, I leave John Roberts. So he's going to be cautious. I think he'll be fine. Don't worry about that.


08;05;09;11 - 08;04;49;16

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I'll be working outside after this. So this is actually this episode, I think is going to be a real treat for everybody. This is going to be encouraging for everybody here at the table and then everyone listening because we're going to be talking about what happens when friendship happens or when friendship rises to the occasion.


08;04;49;06 - 08;04;30;27

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

It is kind of what we're going to be talking about today, and I want that. Additionally, it's in the context of marriage, which in my opinion, is the highest form of friendship in this life that we can. Then we can ever hope to see it when it's done right.


08;04;29;26 - 08;04;16;07

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

What a beautiful friendship can be inside a marriage. And so we're going to talk about this kind of part, too to our winner. 55 episode. So was that five? I think OK? I think it's five OK, although with five ish.


08;04;15;29 - 08;04;13;19

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And so you so if you had heard that it was.


08;04;13;19 - 08;04;13;11

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

four.


08;04;13;00 - 08;03;55;19

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Of 14, I'm so glad they're the lady and they were aware that the dynamic is already here. But we're not going to be able to get away with just like this sort of loose facts or anything when it's like no one knows for forever.


08;03;55;15 - 08;03;38;00

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Check out four. And so if you haven't heard or that would give you context that shot for the winner. 55 or 55, yeah, OK. So I'm a tee this up a little bit. Yeah, you know, I set it up and then maybe I'll add a bit of context on that.


08;03;37;24 - 08;03;19;04

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Yeah, I want on and off. I'm going to hand it. Yeah, I I didn't live, the story observed. So I want to. So what did you observe? I, you know, first of all, just to back up like. When when you just kind of willy nilly through air and I think when you challenge it, when John says challenge


08;03;19;04 - 08;03;00;29

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

, it doesn't mean I'm not going to, you know, I'm going to limit my sugar intake or, you know, I'm going to do an extra pushup or something. It's it's going to be something significant. And when you told me, you know, we just got off from doing five cases for 21 days and which you weren't a runner before


08;03;00;29 - 08;02;44;09

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

, anyway, it really, you know, yes, I'm running in your history years ago. But you're like, I'm a rough and you haven't been running, really? And you're I'm going to be percent 100 days in a row and then I'm going to add lifting tights to those Monday.


08;02;44;00 - 08;02;27;20

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And I was I was like, John, 100 days and if you on 21 and then even more than quadruple it. And that's kind of how that conversation went, OK? So as we're running, actually, I think we talked about this because we're finishing up the 21 day challenge.


08;02;27;16 - 08;02;08;19

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

There may have been one. OK, yeah, right after Christmas, I think we're going to start 100 there. Yeah, because we also kicked that 100 days off with 21 days for drinking, right? Which was quite an idea. Yeah. So it's like all these, these challenges, we know they're hand in glove with all the other decisions we got.


08;02;07;23 - 08;01;48;03

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So that's why we like making them. We're kind of breaking our mind know because there's so many difficulties are going to hit in life. And so if you train yourself to not say no to things or are also also open, the idea that you can do more than you are doing right now.


08;01;47;14 - 08;01;35;11

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So you did that, you decided do it. Yes. OK, so that's what I observed. So I'm going to stop there. OK. OK, so why don't you tell me? Yeah, it went from there, and I know we the winner.


08;01;35;10 - 08;01;20;16

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

55. Yes, you don't want to rehash of like sitting down to build on the win or if it's successful, £50 million for 100 days consistency. The goal from the onset was consistency. Right? What happens if I'm disciplined routinely for 100 days?


08;01;20;16 - 08;01;04;21

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

What will become of me and kind of looking back a lot, right? We in the winter of 55, we discuss about how ultimate injury forced me to change the plan in pursuit of the goal. The goal consistency. The injury, meaning I can continue running without risk of tearing my Achilles tendon.


08;01;03;20 - 08;00;44;19

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So I had a dress, right? So we went into great depth there. Adjusted continue like, you know. Amped up my wake up time later in earlier continued with did a few other things to meet the same requirements of discipline I want and it's been awesome because the service born during this challenge.


08;00;44;05 - 08;00;30;00

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Right? That's pretty cool. And I feel like a different person can't believe how I see the world. So on those ends, it's been wonderful. I'm already thinking of what the next challenges are going to be and what I want to gain from them.


08;00;29;11 - 08;00;10;05

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And I think one of the greatest goals was when you set a target. Being OK, adjusting the tactics or strategy to accomplish the safe if necessary. Right. Because I started to lose sight of my goal in the challenge when I was running into physical limitations.


08;00;09;06 - 09;59;55;18

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And we just heard from that. So. The thing, though? Outside of the personal benefits and in the joy of what's occurred with all that, I think the thing that has affected me the most is the coolest thing and frankly like.


09;59;54;09 - 09;59;37;09

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Hit me on every level being was I read the synopsis of the Order 55, which we read in that episode to Lindsey before I shared it with anyone else, there's a case in my stupid to consider letting anyone know I wrote this right?


09;59;36;24 - 09;59;27;06

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And she sat behind me at my desk and I read it. She was stretching and she kept asking and she woke up and I was like, OK, yeah, it's good. We kind of talked about this, but was really cool.


09;59;27;06 - 09;59;07;02

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And the reason that I'm so thrilled to have her with us today is because she's the the quiet hero in the background. If that is ever moving and it's a force to be reckoned with and the reason or for some super well, the reason our house is held together and the reason that we have huge foundational piece


09;59;07;02 - 09;58;55;04

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

and we thrives marriage. And she does these incredible things without any fanfare, without any request for resolve. And one such thing is she said, OK. She went downstairs. I'm like, OK, I start working in four or five minutes later.


09;58;54;23 - 09;58;33;16

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

She changed and done the first of 40 55 case that she would do to ensure that the running portion of the charge contained despite my inability to conceive and Lindsey didn't have a vote on the front. I'm curious, like, like, how did that go and use it when he told you how much you challenge before it got


09;58;33;16 - 09;58;30;10

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

started? We just kind of like, Roll your eyes on here, goes down again or.


09;58;30;02 - 09;58;29;06

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Yeah, basically.


09;58;29;06 - 09;58;28;28

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Yeah.


09;58;27;14 - 09;58;14;03

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So you're just kind of roll with it when he goes, We're going to go, do this. You look at it and go, How much money is this going to cost us? And then you say. OK. What's the time, commitment and can we physically do it right?


09;58;13;19 - 09;57;58;23

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And then, you know, OK, well, it's like when he was running saying, get out of the military. He called me up like, we've not talked for days and he goes, I've been thinking this, but I'm not sure. Maybe we need to pursue something different.


09;57;58;15 - 09;57;57;29

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I go.


09;57;56;18 - 09;57;41;10

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

What happens if you leave me, so I was out of choice? I was like, Yeah, so we'll figure it out, huh? He's like, Wait, you think it's OK for me to get out of the military? I was like, Absolutely, is that I will support you in anything that you want to do?


09;57;40;28 - 09;57;36;26

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Yeah, I have always done that. I've always helps you do that. I mean.


09;57;36;03 - 09;57;21;21

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And a real quick piece of context, I think it's really important from the military community is unless you're on the rocks like heavily on rocks and like your partner, you're saying like you need to get out or go on which that does happen.


09;57;20;14 - 09;57;03;26

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Most people are like, You are getting out or you get out. It's scary. Yeah, how? Where's our home? How are we going to eat it right? Like the most is all people who military know for the most part and then going through the veil to figure out how are we going to be OK on the other side


09;57;03;18 - 09;57;00;15

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

? Yeah, it's a scary thing. So when you have any twins.


09;57;00;02 - 09;56;58;17

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And he was at the height of his career.


09;56;58;08 - 09;56;54;15

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Well, I was and the reason he.


09;56;54;15 - 09;56;53;29

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Was doing.


09;56;53;29 - 09;56;36;00

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Well. Yeah, I was positioned to continue climbing very well. And so it's OK to say, Hey, let's drop into complete uncertainty. With no idea what to do with any twins and a bunch of kids and having no idea what the next steps are.


09;56;35;12 - 09;56;17;23

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

That's why it's so incredible to hear that. OK, let's figure it out this morning. Well, it's not like echo climbing Mount Everest. We don't know where we'll figure it out. So you guys, it seems to me and this is part of like when you're doing a challenge and we've talked about this before.


09;56;17;10 - 09;56;04;10

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Don't assume that whatever challenge you're having, it's a solo thing. The people around you who love you are also going to be a part of it, whether they had a vote or not. So why not just have the conversation as it's ultimately going to happen?


09;56;03;26 - 09;55;52;04

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

It's better if you can be included in it. So you guys actually did talk and and you're just, you know, sometimes you just kind of accept each other for what we are and also talk through it. So you understand it.


09;55;51;06 - 09;55;50;01

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So you had a history of this?


09;55;49;24 - 09;55;48;24

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Yeah, very much so.


09;55;47;29 - 09;55;23;19

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And yeah, at this time, an editor I wanted to say to like this is radio podcasts, and I was like, You can't see anything. But Lindsey is smaller in stature, right? Many of our listeners don't know who you are and in love you and she she's if you wouldn't assume like she's like, this really strong willed, tough


09;55;23;19 - 09;55;20;08

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

person. I mean, you have red hair. I mean, there's that little warning. Yeah.


09;55;19;22 - 09;55;16;13

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I am a foot shorter and £100 lighter than yes.


09;55;16;07 - 09;55;01;23

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Yes. Yeah. So, you know, you could probably just sink into that personality. I guess I'm just a small little girl and kind of thing. But you, you believe in yourself. You have strong confidence, right? And it's like, you don't need get.


09;54;58;22 - 09;54;47;26

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And so you're not you're not like, you're not unaware of what it is to decide. To do things that are difficult or decide to make your way happen.


09;54;47;12 - 09;54;41;07

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Right? Yeah. And it's pretty much done that my entire life. So are you always been small?


09;54;41;00 - 09;54;39;02

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Where are you in the birth order? I'm just curious as.


09;54;39;02 - 09;54;38;07

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

The middle child.


09;54;38;00 - 09;54;36;18

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Oh, OK, all right.


09;54;36;18 - 09;54;34;28

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So not your typical middle.


09;54;34;27 - 09;54;30;11

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

As I say, you have a little bit where normally middle is not like kind of a pleaser.


09;54;29;27 - 09;54;28;24

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And very much soda.


09;54;28;12 - 09;54;08;03

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Yeah, you still have that. Yeah. So here we are. John. This is this is a great opportunity inside of a marriage that you felt you came to failure and you couldn't run anymore because I did 55. And your thought was, OK, just changes.


09;54;07;28 - 09;53;55;03

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I'm alone in this sense on some level, like no one's really paying attention to kind of fix to get things to the next level. This is my decision. I'm going to own it. But you didn't know, in fact, that Lindsey had decided.


09;53;54;15 - 09;53;45;17

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

All right. 100 day challenge is going to happen. You know, the difference is just a reroute. And so what did you pick us up there, Lindsey Kind, what was your thinking there?


09;53;45;01 - 09;53;26;14

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So I was stretching, I mean, just on a really intense workout while he was reading 55. And I think the thing that hit me the most was the part where he says that he is mortal. And I mean, like, that's one of those things where we are all mortal, but we don't think about that a lot.


09;53;26;05 - 09;53;03;29

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

We don't really understand that our bodies fail us day in and day out. People develop cancer. They broke bones. I mean, your children can fall off of something and you're going to the E.R. It happens day in and day out, and we genuinely don't grasp that concept that we are mortal beings, that our next breath is not


09;53;03;29 - 09;52;47;00

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

guaranteed. Our day is not guaranteed. And for me to hear that it was like, Wow, I'm not mortal, but for I am mortal. But at the same time, it was me thinking and looking at him going, I know how much this challenge meant to him.


09;52;46;17 - 09;52;30;27

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I know what those hundred days was because he's been doing the 21 days challenge. And for him, it's not just the physical. The physical is where he gets to escape. And in his mind, he thinks through things, and that's what running was for me.


09;52;30;17 - 09;52;17;01

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Any time our marriage has gotten really difficult. He'll come home and I'll say, kids are in bed, I'm going to run and I will all going to run a mile if that's what it is or whatever. And so I went.


09;52;16;25 - 09;52;16;08

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And.


09;52;15;20 - 09;52;01;25

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I can't, I won't. I can't run outside. But I have four small humans, so I've been running on the treadmill for almost 45 days staring at a wall. At first it was in the basement, which was really rough, and then we moved it upstairs.


09;52;01;25 - 09;51;51;08

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So that's at least helpful. I kind of get a look at some of the windows, but because of the placement of words, I am staring at a wall and running on the treadmill, facing a whole separate type of discipline in general.


09;51;50;26 - 09;51;44;06

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

But my perspective was. I want to be able to pick up where he is not able to.


09;51;44;06 - 09;51;43;17

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Continue.


09;51;42;29 - 09;51;25;20

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And to show him that it's not just him who does something that challenges like you're saying, this isn't solo to prove to not even just prove to him, but to kind of walk alongside him and say, I'm your wife and I've got this for you, right?


09;51;25;07 - 09;51;23;10

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And kind of just walk through that.


09;51;23;00 - 09;51;03;08

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So do you say that this single ladies out there? Just I'm wondering because my wife has told me this too. There's there's a kind of a heart of a life that she wants to know. Like what? Where are those gaps that her husband has because she really wants to help?


09;51;02;10 - 09;50;53;18

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

But guys are are so stinking proud of the time. We'd rather just hide it or deal with it ourselves, or they're not aware or they're not aware. Yeah.


09;50;53;00 - 09;50;52;08

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Well, and that's.


09;50;52;02 - 09;50;51;14

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

You know.


09;50;51;14 - 09;50;33;28

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Communication is really a big thing. And I do. I enjoy writing. I really love running. I'm not necessarily the fastest or the best at it, but I will go distance. I love signing up for like five k ten K runs and things like that.


09;50;33;28 - 09;50;28;14

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Actually, after our podcast segment, I'm going to run anywhere between six to twelve miles today and we'll see.


09;50;28;14 - 09;50;26;14

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

How about not on the treadmill?


09;50;26;13 - 09;50;10;08

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

No, not on the treadmill. But I I think if you don't allow your partner into the areas that you're struggling, it could be their strengths and you will never know that if you don't invite them in.


09;50;09;19 - 09;49;51;28

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

That is such a great that's a great sermon right there that you'll never know where the strengths of the partner may arise out of just being humble about or the person. Felt really organ failure, whether it be secret or blatant.


09;49;51;10 - 09;49;38;14

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

It, you know, I've noticed too oftentimes a failure as a husband is more blatant than we realize. We just we just need to have the courage to call it out. And it's amazing how in a marriage, that could be a real opportunity.


09;49;38;04 - 09;49;21;18

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Yeah. So when should I get angry with me? two leading up to that day because she's like, Why are you doing this is going to keep you from suffering, you know? So like, it was evident in this part of it, and I don't think I'm aware of how much these things I think only affects me, affects my


09;49;21;16 - 09;49;05;18

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

family and affects my, my brain and, you know, my friends and everything else. It's hard to say, Oh, we keep it for 30 and working out. It's like really touching, obviously, you know? But it has effects. And when you're limping across the room, of course, your wife is not.


09;49;05;15 - 09;48;43;26

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

That part kind of got her attention. Yeah. That's it. It's interesting that to your point, though, Harry and boy, you sort of point to when you're looking at. If you I don't know your feelings, this may maybe my strengths or I may have the strength to cover that right, or we may find a solution that mitigates that


09;48;43;26 - 09;48;20;03

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

need altogether. I think that's true in any partnership, but the initial seeds of destruction and diminishing of a relationship or partnership has a goal in mind. You're right, it is assumptions and lack of communication. Right? If if you say if you put in some form of ability to call out assumptions and confirm or deny them right, good


09;48;20;03 - 09;48;05;20

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

or bad and communicate to states, clearly it's so empowering. I mean, you and I just did that for one of the pursuits working okay, cage, we both want the same things and we see this relationship the same way.


09;48;05;11 - 09;47;52;20

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And guess what? The assumptions for? Yes, but we confirmed they were yes. And the confirmation is what gives us the faith that if you attribute some turbulence or you had a failure, you get a struggle. It's like, we want the same things.


09;47;52;15 - 09;47;32;13

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

We just need a partner to get the stronger. And whether that is building a business or something like that, or whether it's a marriage and raising children, you know, like having those touchpoints is so incredibly critical. It's a beautiful thing if you allow that to happen.


09;47;31;25 - 09;47;20;09

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I noticed marriage is the highest level of this, but even in our friendships, like if you go around and you think about who you chosen to spend the most time with or who you most admire is probably something in them that they're strong.


09;47;20;06 - 09;46;58;01

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

You're not. And it's fascinating to you and an admirable, you know, I do think that that is such a cool whatever it could be, and it could be a mindset or how they think of things or process. And you just want to kind of observe almost inside of a marriage when we have this great ability to exercise


09;46;56;07 - 09;46;39;15

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

for each other. Those are things that we're good at. And so here you are at this. This decision that you elect to run, but at the same time, that was his thing, and now you're going to be on his terms because he set the challenge out for himself.


09;46;39;14 - 09;46;36;15

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

You've adopted it, yes, as your own saying.


09;46;36;08 - 09;46;18;13

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Yeah. And about think it was day five, I slipped and fell on. And I wracked my lower back, hurt my leg. Scrape that my entire elbow. And I hadn't run yet. I could barely walk. I was absolutely miserable.


09;46;18;00 - 09;46;04;04

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And so I went and I did what I had to do. And then I came back home, picked up the boys and everything, and I shuffled it on. The treadmill for 3.2 to 3.1 wasn't enough.


09;46;03;16 - 09;45;56;06

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

That's a little like John didn't set out. It's not a fight. It was a little bit more than a fight because that's a I don't know why you why don't you do that?


09;45;56;02 - 09;45;53;08

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Because you ran to the church up the street. It was a landmark.


09;45;53;07 - 09;45;48;15

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Well, mentally, though, because there was another way there was a sign of separation. Yeah. I ran.


09;45;47;23 - 09;45;47;15

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Back.


09;45;47;07 - 09;45;32;03

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And that's when I told him very early on when we did. The 21 is like, This is actually where we're supposed to turn around. Let's go to there yet. Well, anything you do in life. And my my belief is if you give something you an extra percent, whatever the extra reps.


09;45;32;03 - 09;45;17;12

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So that's a five k. No, it's it's a five initiative to £10,000 do at least 10000 workouts, right? That you would do 100 days? I did on one. Whatever the challenges, whatever life is, if you get an extra bedroom.


09;45;17;00 - 09;45;11;06

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

That's my goal. So now Lindsey has to deal with that mentality. Thank you.


09;45;10;26 - 09;45;10;16

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Always.


09;45;10;15 - 09;45;02;17

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I always. So you were in like in you did it. But what about the next day? Like, do you did you feel a little better?


09;45;01;21 - 09;44;45;02

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I didn't feel bad, probably for a week, week and a half. And so I walked probably for about four, for five days thinking so it was a little faster pace of the walk, but I couldn't run it. I was extreme pain.


09;44;44;29 - 09;44;42;16

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I'm sure I raised something like my tailbone.


09;44;42;15 - 09;44;40;12

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So when I quit and as John said, right.


09;44;39;04 - 09;44;22;04

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Because I knew, because the day that I fell, he goes, Well, I'll walk it. I go, No, you won't. I said, You, you physically cannot. You will enjoy yourself more. No, I'll do it. I said I looked at him and I said, I told you run, walk or crawl.


09;44;21;15 - 09;44;12;26

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I will do the challenge for you. And he goes, OK, but I can do it. And I said, No, I'm not going to allow you to injure yourself more.


09;44;12;16 - 09;44;10;10

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So compassion is driving you right.


09;44;10;10 - 09;43;52;15

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And this is one of the first times that he's ever really been injured sustainably for more than maybe a week, two weeks max. So this is still something that he's he's healing through it, but he still has to watch what he's doing currently because his tendons have not fully healed.


09;43;51;21 - 09;43;36;26

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So there have been many days where I just felt absolutely miserable or I'm tired and I didn't want to do it. We built the pool last weekend, for example, and I was inside and I've been doing a bunch of stuff in the house when outside help to build the pool.


09;43;36;07 - 09;43;30;21

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So it's something else that you have to do. But the boys down, it's 8:30 at night. I still haven't.


09;43;30;08 - 09;43;28;28

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I forgot to lift it.


09;43;28;01 - 09;43;22;21

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And so I looked at every house of the year about 10:00 because see, it's on a clock.


09;43;22;07 - 09;43;19;26

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So it's like I got to do it for gosh.


09;43;19;20 - 09;43;16;16

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And it was the fastest time I've ran on the treadmill.


09;43;15;27 - 09;43;00;17

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

To crush it. And it is that labor when we're doing the before the winter 45 and then the 21, this is like it was really cold. I think it was starting to snow really bad and it was several days or like, you should not be doing this, but it was amazing.


09;43;00;14 - 09;42;49;06

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I got some of the best times and I was running at night because that was the only time I could do it that day, exactly how it was going. And you just it's almost like the difficult to judge that much more, it makes you more focused.


09;42;48;26 - 09;42;46;29

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Yeah, that helps.


09;42;46;10 - 09;42;44;01

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I've also started watching a lot of those movies.


09;42;42;22 - 09;42;37;06

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And we're keeping it real here. So Netflix movies, all running has become an escape for her. So upset. Yeah.


09;42;36;28 - 09;42;36;11

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

It helps.


09;42;36;07 - 09;42;35;05

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I'm just saying I'm help me.


09;42;35;05 - 09;42;28;13

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Because running on the treadmill. That's a whole separate type of mental fortitude to run 3.2 miles on the treadmill.


09;42;27;22 - 09;42;12;20

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

There's a I have a document before I order E.R.. Yeah, sometimes it's funny. It's like we talked about difficulty, and sometimes it's like there's an unnecessary difficulty. Sometimes there's unnecessary difficulty, like having to start a wall and treadmill.


09;42;12;20 - 09;41;58;05

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

You'll have to do that. That way, you can just change it up, right? You know, whatever, whatever that thing is, does make it easier for yourself to give yourself a process to stay consistent. You know, we talked about doing a diet.


09;41;58;05 - 09;41;43;04

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Don't keep Doritos in the pantry, keep them at the store right now. If you want to consistently stay at something, it's like, OK, what does that environment look like? Plan that out and then execute, you know, help the consistency with that.


09;41;41;16 - 09;41;30;19

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So I'd like to dig deeper past the challenge because, you know, it's cool. It's done going. Thank you for doing the right thing was done Wednesday. So I finished.


09;41;30;19 - 09;41;27;15

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Thursday. And so yesterday was the only difference in Premiere.


09;41;26;20 - 09;41;25;29

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So we finished.


09;41;25;17 - 09;41;23;25

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

The song to go around like six months.


09;41;23;23 - 09;41;04;05

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And by the way, the purpose of these challenges is to change lifestyle, right? So your incremental mental shifts through the challenges and it works like I slept in this morning till 6:30 and hey, you have lost two hours of my day sleeping till 6:30.


09;41;04;05 - 09;40;46;24

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

What am I doing? But but that's the point, right? She's ran for us 45 days, which is, I must say that I'm doing again. It's lifestyle change and that's the tools, the consistency, right? And it's fun. You know, there's a lot of people who could have done £20,000 against it, and there's a lot of people who can


09;40;46;24 - 09;40;29;27

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

run a marathon a day and so forth. Right. And I had an injury, you know, not had to adjust it. And that's fine. You know that we we can't compare ourselves to where someone else is today. If you compare ourselves to who we were yesterday and who we want to be on tomorrow, right?


09;40;29;11 - 09;40;09;18

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And you know, there's value in that, but well. What I think affected me the most and what I want to dig into more is kind of some of Lindsey's character and because it was the symbolism of the run and what it meant for her to choose to pick that up.


09;40;09;06 - 09;39;50;25

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And what I knew, her intent was in doing it. That was terrible. But the fact that she ran it, who cares, right? I mean, I care about like, OK. It was what she was stating through the action that was really cool in our partnership.


09;39;48;18 - 09;39;34;10

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

You're. Did you think that was going to happen, that this would affect us because this thing I got off line, John told me how impressed he was by a widget like this is incredible that she's doing this for me.


09;39;32;24 - 09;39;25;01

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And I was like, John, you are welcome to have a wife. You know that we have decided you that you better be thinking, How did you get so lucky?


09;39;23;18 - 09;39;22;02

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Because that's a whole different story.


09;39;21;18 - 09;39;04;27

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

And we're in. I know how you care about. So I know maybe a ladies listen to this and they're thinking, well, is that the expectation all? And then it's a personal decision, right? You decided this for you? That's right.


09;39;04;26 - 09;38;49;21

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

That's setting some standard for all wives everywhere to do this because men start lots of dumb ideas and don't finish, and that's not their wives responsibility. But you decided to do that. Digging back into the whys of curiosity, yeah, yeah.


09;38;49;08 - 09;38;48;28

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

What?


09;38;45;24 - 09;38;16;19

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I think more than anything, like I said, the mortal thing, I've seen Jonathan being moral in general, but I've never seen him go through such excruciating pain. Right. I've not seen him have to physically. Quit, or especially with fitness, like everybody who sees him, just automatically starts thinking, this guy, this guy's huge like we do.


09;38;15;12 - 09;38;00;02

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I have all sorts of people and you're shaking your head, and I have all sorts of people or even with a podcaster like about fitness podcasts. Is he coaching something like that? But for me, he's never failed in that area.


09;37;59;10 - 09;37;47;19

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

When we used to live in California, the man was crazy and he'd run in 110 degree weather to the point where he was almost passing out on the side of the road because he forgot to bring water. So it's like, but he wouldn't quit.


09;37;47;18 - 09;37;29;15

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

He still finished a way home. I mean, the amount of now fortitude that he has to push through physical ailments is incredible. And I think it sets a standard not just for him, but for our boys and for those who are around him.


09;37;29;07 - 09;37;25;09

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Like, if you know you're coming to work out with Jonathan, you know you're in for it.


09;37;24;19 - 09;37;24;11

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Yeah.


09;37;22;16 - 09;37;14;24

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Like, there have been people who are like, Oh, I want to come work out with him and I will look at them and I will say, No, yeah, you shouldn't do that.


09;37;13;27 - 09;36;51;05

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Yeah. And John, this is one example of this is yesterday it got done and there were two towns sitting on the floor. I was like, That's where I was sweating that much. It's 30 degrees at the sweat. The freezing rain doesn't stick around too long and.


09;36;49;01 - 09;36;30;05

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

He just won just the poll, which is outside and 30 degree weather. I don't trust that thermal thermometer at all, it said. 46, I'm sure it was. I can't believe it's warmer than ambient temperature. It's got to be wrong and the to the point and all you said was to wash your hands.


09;36;30;02 - 09;36;18;05

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

That was your question. There were there wasn't even a question. It wasn't the question of like, Hey, Aaron, do you want to do this? I don't remember. I don't remember being asked what this.


09;36;17;15 - 09;36;16;15

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Was an expectation.


09;36;14;28 - 09;36;03;18

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

To finish up. We're going to be two to three minutes and we've been doing holds up to this point. Heavyweight holds and static positions. It was like, OK, I'll set the timer. And he was like, Sure, why walking back to the bag?


09;36;03;18 - 09;35;41;04

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I know here in the pool. Wait, wait, you weren't joking. And that's for you. It's fun. It's like a challenge. And it's not something you're really doing, either. But yeah, having a friendly job, you can't imagine almost all the time.


09;35;41;04 - 09;35;39;01

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Like, I could leave you here.


09;35;37;06 - 09;35;35;21

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I dish it just as much as he does.


09;35;35;14 - 09;35;34;11

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So you're a tough.


09;35;32;12 - 09;35;30;23

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Campaign to get away.


09;35;29;02 - 09;35;20;12

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

With. What did you see me getting through that, though? Were you surprised that you could do that or you just you knew to run to do 45 days straight?


09;35;19;15 - 09;35;03;28

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

No surprise. I love to run, and if I could run daily, I absolutely would and prove that I can swim five days. But it's more the time commitment. And it's the mental life. I have to fit this into my.


09;35;03;28 - 09;35;03;14

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I guess.


09;35;03;10 - 09;35;01;10

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

That's my point is that you had so many.


09;35;01;10 - 09;34;40;19

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

Hours. Yeah. So there were days that I woke up. Yeah, like 5:00 a.m. and I would run on, right? Drink my coffee for the first couple of minutes as I'm walking and I sold it a couple different times. But then there were days where I would run in the middle of the day or night, or he'd be done


09;34;40;19 - 09;34;26;17

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

with work. And I feel like dinner's on the table. I'll be out when I'm done running. I know what the rest of our evening looks like. I got to get that done. And so I would go running fast as I could, basically.


09;34;26;11 - 09;34;22;03

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

So Lindsey, like I could give you the reasons why you should quit on this.


09;34;21;18 - 09;34;20;16

Jon, Aaron & Lindsey

I had many of them.


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