Today we explore how to gain the upper hand in the internal conversations we hold with ourselves. Highlights include: - Forces within yourself. - An authentic journey. - Negotiating with yourself. - A lie must be answered with a truth. - How to become genuine & authentic with yourself. - Desire is always there. - Turning pain into pleasure. - Hunger is the best seasoning. Did you find value in today’s conversation? SHARE IT!

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Aaron

Jon, we were up and out of today as we talk about our inside voice. Yes, inside voice, you remember your kid. You know, and like, this is me. Maybe your child. I have a suspect. Maybe this is a childhood, but you probably heard this a lot from the teachers or authorities and buildings where you're supposed to be

08;06;22;08 - 08;06;08;00

Aaron

behaving. And they would say, Jon, you need to use your inside voice if like, I, you know, I mean inside of you. But I am. I have things to say and I want to express. I want to emote, you know, kind of thing.

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Aaron

This isn't appropriate in this environment to act like this.

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Jon

That's very complimentary because you're assuming that I was not raised in the woods like a Neanderthal.

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Aaron

So it's like, you know, they've. The kids, like you never send your kids to go get a kid. You know, and you say, Hey, can you go get your brother? And they'll say, Jack, you know, just yell at the top of their lungs right in front of you.

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Jon

It's a guy, could it? And that's.

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Aaron

Not.

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Jon

Helpful. Yeah. Not helpful.

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Aaron

I wanted to go over and politely ask them to come back. But yeah, but so but anyway, they're teaching our teachers really teaching us that there is there is a time and place and we need to maybe be a little more appropriate.

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Aaron

But we're talking a little bit more about motivation when our inside voice actually is really important. When we do need to stop being loud and we start need to get listening to our inside voice.

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Jon

Yeah, what you're talking about here is the tongue in cheek plan words of inside voice, which you just had fun with to your inner dialog.

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Aaron

Yes. Right?

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Jon

Yup.

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Jon

And in that transition to what does that inner dialog look like?

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Aaron

Yeah. And what's funny is we've talked to our guests and even the books we've read. It's amazing how many and even as we just spoke with Jeremiah Sullivan recently is, he said, the voice that he needs to listen to is the one that is whispering.

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Jon

Mm-Hmm.

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Aaron

And it's me like, you would hope that it's the loud voice that prevails. But if it does, we actually get weaker and we're dealing with, OK, what is the quiet voice? What is the inside voice saying? And how do we listen to it more than the one that's like yelling at us to quit?

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Aaron

Or you're not good enough for all those things that really just stop the play. Yeah, there's a.

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Jon

Lot of examples and metaphors and analogies.

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Jon

That.

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Jon

Talk about the power, the power of thought in the mind.

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Jon

Right?

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Jon

Like there's an Indian story like Native American story that some chief was, you know, mentoring, raising some young man and they were just having a conversation and he's like, There's a wolf. There's two wolves inside of everyone. one is good and one is evil.

08;03;52;00 - 08;03;38;02

Jon

And the wolf that will win is the one you feed more. And you know, there's another old adage where it's like what you think becomes what you say. What you say becomes what you do. What you do becomes who you are, therefore what you think is who you are.

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Jon

So like, it's interesting because just on those two and you already mentioned Jeremiah Sullivan, he has a scar on his one shoulder. He's like this.

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Jon

Week.

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Jon

Voice that tries to pull him into doing less right and live, you know? But a very.

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Aaron

Alluring available for voice.

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Jon

Yeah, it's very it's it's calling out his lesser man.

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Jon

Yeah.

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Jon

But it's very alluring because who wants to do things that make you stronger? That is difficult and painful. And then he has, like he talked about the whisper on the other side or something.

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Jon

Yeah.

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Jon

So it's an act of defiance, right? The desire for morn?

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Jon

Yeah.

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Jon

So right there, we just like rattle off just three of 1000 examples. I'm sure we'll talk about.

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Jon

Yeah.

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Jon

Of how people look at the forces within themselves.

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Jon

Mm hmm.

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Aaron

I think one of the things I think is a pitfall, and I fall into this too. But you know, with even with social media culture right now, people are really quick to be loud about something. And I'm talking about a personal development.

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Aaron

I'm not concerned about other behaviors people do, but like somebody says, I am going to run every day, I'm going to do a, I'm going to, that's it. I'm going to do a diet or I'm going to whatever.

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Aaron

I've read this many books this year, these kind of things almost like these sort of resolution type statements. And and oftentimes, I just feel like the better thing to do. I mean, it's great to announce it, and I think you should be you should share the things that you're challenging yourself in with people.

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Aaron

I would just be more selective. I think it's it's better. The more important thing is is, are you telling yourself those things that you're telling other people that say.

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Jon

That's such a good question, because I am curious, are you calling me out?

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Aaron

Now there is no passive aggressive here.

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Jon

But I'm having fun with that.

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Aaron

No, no.

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Jon

But I've gotten into the practice of when I start a new contract with myself, which is why I'm now calling the challenges I post about it. But I'm really doing that for social accountability for myself.

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Jon

Yes. Right.

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Jon

So like, I 100% agree. When I used to tell people because for me, it was like, I don't want to tell someone, right? Because if I tell. Everyone I know, right? Hey, I'm going to do like this 110 days or five days at 4:00 a.m. and stuff like that.

08;01;17;08 - 08;01;00;04

Jon

Yeah. I don't get I just removed an out for myself. Right? So, so to your point, I think if you're doing it because you're sound part of your own weaker inner dialog that's trying to look for outs. Yeah, go try it for a few days first and see if you want to stick to it or whatever, then

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Jon

it can be a good thing. But if you're doing it for.

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Jon

Like.

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Jon

Some bragging machismo garbage.

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Aaron

That's that what you're talking about. That's the difference I see. Yeah, the difference between Are you? What's the endgame? Are you trying to get a reaction? Other people, are you trying to actually have if you're trying to strengthen your resolve?

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Aaron

That's I think that's a difference. So that that's where social media could be a tool. Yeah, it's like, Hey, I got to put this out there, because then when I'm weak, I need to look, Oh yeah, I did.

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Aaron

You know, I did say I was going to do it, so I'm going to do it now. I want to be someone who's a person of their word. But if you're just looking at, oh, how many likes shares I get, that is not the correct motivation.

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Aaron

If you're really going to go a long way and if you really don't change, really hurt your character, not just your physicality or whatever you're trying to attack.

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Jon

It's interesting because I think just on that note, the social media aspect, it's like it's a very good tool. It's fire, right? Fire is a very helpful tool. But just like Fire Man, you can burn the Tarnation yourself so fast and so easily.

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Jon

Yeah, in without like just the slightest slip and you start getting burned, you know? And so even in really small ways and you just have to. I'm not talking about like, you know, people burning you. I'm just maybe you spent too much time scrolling or whatever, and you just have to be very intentional when you use it

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Jon

. Right? Yes.

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Jon

Yeah.

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Jon

Which I'm trying to get consistently better at right, more parameters around how we interact with it. When I use it to make it more and more of a tool and less and less of.

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Jon

A.

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Jon

Burning up of unnecessary resources. Right. But I love I love the call out there because. You know, I sometimes do some Coke baby things, but it's very intentional to call out that I'm taking myself too seriously, which is just mine.

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Jon

It's interesting because you say that I think about this a lot because I don't want to become some like social media sellout type of thing. It's more this is such a good tool for me to just batter myself.

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Jon

Mm-Hmm. Oh, I'm starting to feel too like cool or whatever. I'm going to go do something stupid, like silly.

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Jon

Or.

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Jon

Or I have like this voice of like, well, no one knows that you're doing this. You can get out whenever you want. Let's just silence that voice. And once it's silenced, it's silenced.

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Aaron

Oh, yeah, absolutely. Yeah. I think what you're what we're doing when we're sharing what we're what we're whatever challenge we have is should be an encouragement. We should be doing it first to ourselves and then to others. And that's I think as I'm getting to, I think people, even when it's funny, when even when you state the

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Aaron

thing, you're not trying to encourage others in the negative reality, if you're if you're doing it the wrong way. In some ways, I feel like people are just trying to elevate themselves like, Hey, I just won't let you know I'm doing something and in their mind, and you're not meaner, leaner versus the the opposite where where you're

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Aaron

going, Hey, I'm doing this, and maybe you can't do if you want. I think you mentioned something this morning at your realizing is that as you challenge yourself more, you're realizing in it in an authentic way. This is what I'm talking about authentic, sharing a challenge and living the challenge.

09;57;59;00 - 09;57;37;19

Aaron

You're realizing the empathy for those who are also doing the same thing. Hmm. So you're picking it up and going. I understand what you're going through, but then simultaneously having inpatients with those who are maybe. Saying they're trying challenges, but they're really not pushing themselves, they're acting like it or talking about.

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Jon

It or actively just swallowing self-deception. Right, right. There's some people in my life right now who I'm watching them lie to themselves.

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Jon

Mm-Hmm.

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Jon

And I'm hoping the Christmas season.

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Jon

Mm hmm. Yeah. Right.

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Jon

But it's also hard to say I I want to keep walking with you. But a bit like this dislike has to stop. Right, right. Because otherwise, we just can't keep doing this. You know, and and it's it's more of heartbreak than Carlos.

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Jon

Yeah.

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Jon

And obviously, there's conversations around it. And some of it's just like letting people go on their own journey.

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Jon

And.

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Jon

Get to where they need to on their own right because it's a mix. But yeah, 100%.

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Aaron

one of the top bestsellers of all time besides the Bible, it's got number one is a book called Pilgrim's Progress, and you may have heard the book, but if you haven't read it before, it's actually a brilliant book on an journeying through life.

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Aaron

And it's an allegory of of someone who is journeying up this mountaintop, which is ultimately allegorical of heaven or his salvation. But along the way, it's really interesting all the people in his life. These are friends and family members, even his wife that that will portray him or will will keep him from from walking out this path

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Aaron

that he knows he must do. And and so how does and how he deals with that and and how at times he gets captured and stuck in and he can't go on anymore? And how, you know, how does that play out?

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Aaron

Mm-Hmm. But the journey we have, oftentimes we. We have to start with what is my inside voice telling me, what is that mission I am on? Because if I don't tell myself, others will. And that's what gets really dangerous.

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Jon

Yeah, it's OK. If I don't choose, I'm going to use my time. Others will feel it.

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Jon

Yeah, usually so.

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Jon

So going back to the like, we're talking a lot about the journey itself, but the the inner dialog on how we interact with ourselves in different impulses and feelings.

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Jon

We get.

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Jon

Really dictates a lot of that journey and the thought patterns. That I allow myself to have right really will dictate how the day goes, how I'm responding in the circumstances I'm in.

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Jon

Right and and.

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Jon

You know, for myself, I really see my conversations with myself and my mind as I'm thinking as like.

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Jon

Oh, a war.

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Jon

Between who I can become. And the lesser man who's the opposite of who I can become, you know, on the two ends of the extreme, and sometimes it's like the Cold War, where it's like super small whispers of deception and like.

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Jon

Oh, you.

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Jon

Can be tired in this or you can be impatient this, they're acting crazy or whatever. And sometimes it's like, I am in the garage screaming at myself. Simon waits around in a full-on battle with some idea that I've come to you, right?

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Jon

But for me, that's how I relate to it. And it's either that, you know, war of deception or complete your soul out like rage fest against myself trying to get dominance over a weaker version of myself who would not serve my family, my wife as well, myself as well.

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Aaron

How do you? Can you? Can you tell me what the characteristics are of the what's called the the voice? That is the weaker man? Yeah. Well, for for for fun, the insidious sort of, you know, you don't have to do this.

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Jon

What's even worse than that? It's like it's you don't have to, you know, wake up at four is one side of it. It's also.

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Jon

Like you.

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Jon

Can look at that other woman.

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Jon

Or you.

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Jon

Can drink that bottle of whiskey.

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Jon

Or.

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Jon

It's destructive, right? It goes against it. Look like so on one part, I just want to be selfish and free and free that quotations in a self-serving type of way and just pursue pleasure. Mm hmm. Right. But that leads to a road of nothingness.

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Aaron

Would you say that voice has almost always in it, an endgame of pleasure or comfort?

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Jon

I think that's what it's evolved to is to just be anger in my walk. Me personally, I used to just be angry and want to see things burn. And then it's evolved into as I've resolved a lot of that too, like, Oh, that's just that's just not.

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Jon

Can we avoid the burden of what you can become?

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Jon

Mm-Hmm.

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Jon

And sometimes, you know, like I said, that it's not it's not uniform. For me, it's very much so depending on the circumstances, what part of myself I'm fighting. But it's like I was thinking about this. I saw this post the other day and the guy wrote a daredevil and he wrote a note.

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Jon

It's kind of a stance of defiance. And I went on a run and I was thinking about it and I was like, Hey, mine would be a little different because I realized that if I fall, I'm allowing a weakness that could cause many more to fall.

09;52;31;14 - 09;52;13;06

Jon

Not that they would fall. I'm causing weakness. You know, for my wife, for my children, for those I worked closely with. So it's like, not only do I have the joy of pursuing this for myself, but I have a duty to these other people and that lights an additional fire within me to not give an inch.

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Jon

You know, and in for me, it's like, Yeah, I can remember the successes I've had in the past when I'm struggling or grinding. But when that even runs dry, I can just remember those who might be setting an example for or fighting alongside.

09;51;58;12 - 09;51;41;26

Jon

And I can pull additional strength from that. So, so for myself, it's it's very much so this I want to put to death this weaker, lesser self in the pursuit of. Whatever the maximized potential of me can become.

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Jon

But I know that's not the uniform way of self dialoging.

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Jon

It's just.

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Jon

That.

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Jon

There's just a few minutes on on how I do it. And that's one flavor, right?

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Aaron

It's almost like stepping away from your own situation so you can have another angle on it. And it's like, if I was if I were looking at it from my wife's shoes, what would she want from me or what would she want for me?

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Aaron

I should say that from me, but or what is what is that friend that in my life? What do they really want for me?

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Jon

Hmm.

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Aaron

And then you're motivating yourself sort of like, Hey, you know, those are the people that are. I really do care about. It's not just my voice that matters.

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Jon

Well, yeah.

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Jon

It's like the best way I can look at it is probably my sons because I have four boys and and they'll watch the carrot out of.

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Jon

Me.

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Jon

So and I can see it because they parent things that make me feel great. Work, workout and staff inside Gaza.

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Jon

Then up.

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Jon

Here, things that make me feel.

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Jon

Horrible.

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Jon

Like they'll chug a sparkling water.

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Jon

I gossip here.

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Jon

And I'm like, Oh man.

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Aaron

Yeah. Candy cigarets are a thing when we were kid, probably for a reason.

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Jon

Exactly.

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Aaron

Etc. watching.

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Jon

So it's.

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Jon

Like, man, if you just pay attention. And that's why I think one of these things is if. Not, I think that if you aren't aware of. These opposing feelings within yourself, it may just be from a lack of allowing self-awareness, because I think even if you are close to mastery, whatever the heck that would look like, you

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Jon

would have an awareness of like, No, I'm I'm in a place where I'm able to mostly maintain in a more disciplined and controlling the direction I want to go. Not so much at this. Other parts, not there. So if you feel like, no, I'm in complete unity with myself and I'm doing exactly what I want everything else

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Jon

to take.

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Jon

Maybe.

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Jon

But it's probably more likely that you're just not slowing down enough to realize that you're slipping and not climbing, or that you're climbing so hard that you don't realize in one area that you're slipping in these other critical factors and becoming a different type of monster.

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Jon

Yeah, yeah.

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Jon

But but I I kind of strip it down to the that mentality. How do you see it?

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Aaron

I've had to learn as I've gotten older, how just unique I am as a as a person, so and ever. And I think everyone's unique and then saying I'm unique and my uniqueness. But I will say that it was it was evident early on that I'm going to be someone who is going to stand out.

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Aaron

And just because of the personality pieces I have and not always in a good way, it's just, I'm going to be I'm going to have to deal with the awkwardness I have or the way I see things or the way or how impulsive I can be on something when other people know to, you know, maybe you should

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Aaron

sit down, buddy. You know, like it's always been that way, like class clown without even in elementary middle school and just goofing off because I just had this inside of me realizing how much I want people to react and emote.

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Aaron

And that was just fine. You know, that's not a good thing, and you're a student and a teacher is trying to keep, yeah, keep order in the classroom. There's a time and the place. But it like if I had if I had and I did four seasons, let groups of people tell me, you're supposed to be this

09;48;22;04 - 09;48;06;02

Aaron

person or act like this, that that's a state of misery because it's not who you are. And if if I were mature enough in high school and how many of us were to say, You know what? No, no, no, this is this is how I made and people don't agree with it.

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Aaron

Yeah, hey, I'll be respectful and that kind of thing. It'd be that they don't get they don't get a vote who I'm going to be.

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Jon

I love that you just shared that because I think that's part of the evolution, right? Yeah. When you don't have the confidence or self-awareness or maturity or understanding whatever. I don't know exactly how to describe it, to realize that you're those negotiations need be with yourself.

09;47;43;07 - 09;47;30;14

Jon

And everything else is just data. Yeah, right? It's just data to help influence your decisions. Yeah. Then you do have other people depicted. I just like listening to you. I just thought I had a couple of memories come back of like some foolish, asinine things I did in.

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Jon

School.

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Jon

Trying to seek approval and gain social capital with people that I don't even remember their names now. And you know, that's not callous, which was a long, long time ago. And yeah, it's really interesting because it's like, if.

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Jon

You.

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Jon

I'm just thinking the juxtaposition right is if you overly care about what others think, your actions and therefore who you're becoming is dictated by them.

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Jon

Mm hmm.

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Jon

But if you filter it really carefully, it's like if you tell me something, we have the relationship, I'm going to pay close attention to it and evaluate it. Yes, I'm going to test it and see what I need to do, if anything, or how extreme I need to react based on the information because we have that trust

09;46;47;28 - 09;46;39;23

Jon

. Yeah, same with my wife and some others. But if I'm, you know, in a social setting, there's a bunch of people in there, oh, you should do this. And then they.

09;46;39;23 - 09;46;38;20

Jon

Go, Okay.

09;46;37;12 - 09;46;34;08

Jon

You know, it just it's different, but it's part of that evolution also.

09;46;34;07 - 09;46;22;06

Aaron

There is, yeah, there's wisdom. And what is it because you don't want to be like, I don't I don't want to excuse away bad behavior because like, this is who I am. Yeah, you know, that's not what I'm talking about.

09;46;22;06 - 09;46;06;14

Aaron

I'm talking about talking about things that maybe are unique to you, that are natural, gifting us that can be honed and gifted. I've heard too many times and even in, even as I get honest with myself, there were certain things that I knew about myself, that I let other people tell me who I was and this squashed

09;46;06;14 - 09;45;59;08

Aaron

down. So they became these loud voices when I really should have been like, You know, this is really who I am, and it's not going away. That's who I want to be.

09;45;58;11 - 09;45;37;24

Jon

You know, it's interesting because you said they become these loud voices that can in your mind and just also, you know, verbally, they're talking to you. But it's wild because when you're talking about. Where I really think this inner dialog comes to head is when you have decided that I want to evolve, transform and become a better

09;45;37;24 - 09;45;22;19

Jon

person. And maybe that's when the keys, if that's not a decision you made, maybe it's not there. I don't know. I hope to never know because I want to keep growing as long as I live. So there are always be this dissonance between who I can become and who I am.

09;45;21;22 - 09;45;05;09

Aaron

What loud voices I think are are really just a gift to those whose inner voices are getting strong. Yeah, because like you said, if you say anything, you're actually being consistent and you're going to make people uncomfortable. And the more the more uncomfortable someone gets, the louder they get.

09;45;04;23 - 09;44;43;27

Aaron

And in that sense, it's almost like you kind of, you know, it's almost an encouragement. Mm-Hmm. So if you're doing something that really matters, you're being consistent and people are get more and more angry with you. For. For unwise reasons, you not talking like you're cutting him off in traffic and this is what this is, material is

09;44;43;08 - 09;44;42;16

Aaron

unjustified.

09;44;42;16 - 09;44;42;07

Jon

It's like.

09;44;42;01 - 09;44;41;13

Aaron

You're.

09;44;41;13 - 09;44;35;29

Jon

Doing something productive, you doing it? It's just frustrating them because it's holding up a mirror.

09;44;35;10 - 09;44;20;11

Aaron

Like you simply are holding an ideal that you're only committing to yourself. And they themselves feel as if they're being attacked. I mean, this happens anytime you do any kind of a any kind of a discipline. You know, people and people see it.

09;44;19;07 - 09;44;01;20

Jon

You know, along with that and in the pursuit of like becoming better. That's where I think this dialog really comes in, because that's where you have these these moments, right? Like you're you're less yourself or that that voice that wants to give you an alt right that part of you.

09;44;01;12 - 09;44;00;13

Jon

It knows.

09;43;59;26 - 09;43;59;15

Jon

All of.

09;43;59;15 - 09;43;37;00

Jon

Your weaknesses, it knows all of your fears. And that's when they surface, you know, like for me, the hardest part of. By the morning stuff I'm doing right now is not even just getting out of bed. It's when I stand up and I feel some of the pain in my tendons and it's like you have 108 more

09;43;37;00 - 09;43;23;13

Jon

days and it's like, I don't care. I have today and I have a plan where I'm more intelligently actually addressing this problem and I'm going to do it. You know, and you just have to combat it. And that's I think that's the thing you have to.

09;43;22;13 - 09;43;19;29

Jon

A lie must be answered with the truth.

09;43;19;07 - 09;43;18;16

Jon

And.

09;43;18;08 - 09;43;03;28

Jon

Or a decision. It can't just be ignored. So it's like what I've realized in myself is, Oh, you're not going to make it. You're 108 more days false. That's not true. You know, here's how I know I'm going to make it.

09;43;03;28 - 09;43;01;15

Jon

I'm stretching for 30 minutes a day. I'm doing this for blah.

09;43;01;14 - 09;43;00;17

Jon

Blah blah blah blah blah.

09;43;00;09 - 09;42;53;15

Jon

Or just sometimes, too, it's just, Hey, shut up. Right? Like, sometimes you just have to tell yourself to be quiet.

09;42;52;29 - 09;42;52;17

Jon

Stop.

09;42;52;14 - 09;42;48;03

Jon

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