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16. Question Comfort _ Redifine Your Limitations



 

Today we discuss the danger of overvaluing the trappings of comfort and we juxtapose comfort versus three areas of life worth challenging and questioning. Those areas of focus are: 1. Comfort versus Reward 2. Comfort versus self Identity 3. Comfort versus Relationships Highlights from the conversation include: - The silver spoon won't be your friend. - It gets easier to do hard things as you go. - How do we define what is valuable? - How you do one thing, is how you will do everything. Did you find value in today’s conversation? SHARE IT!

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08;06;40;07 - 08;06;25;14

Jon & Aaron

OK, Jon, this morning we are talking about questioning comfort and redefining limitation. And the way I think we look for that is by looking at the types of companies you question in the pursuit of a more vibrant life.


08;06;25;07 - 08;06;09;03

Jon & Aaron

Right? So as we define that, it's going to be one questioning comfort versus reward. And what we value, what's more important? The second type is comfort versus self-identity, really challenging who we want to become versus who we are.


08;06;08;17 - 08;05;49;20

Jon & Aaron

And the third is comfort in relationships. Are we showing up fully and doing what they need to do? Why is it that I want to be comfortable all the time? Why is it that I'm fighting this all the time of how to get to a place that I really enjoy?


08;05;49;20 - 08;05;28;26

Jon & Aaron

Is that pushing past limits? But I know that. That limit is purchased with discomfort. Yeah. It will comes at a price, right? Mm-Hmm. It's funny, I woke up this morning for this, and I'll get a sleep more tonight in that moment.


08;05;28;19 - 08;05;10;12

Jon & Aaron

That's good enough, right? I say that every morning, but then when you here talking, it's like, Thank God, I was awake. What? You know, what would I miss if I sleeping right now? Yes. And so this we had the best conversation this morning.


08;05;10;02 - 08;04;50;07

Jon & Aaron

We did. It was it was like. To me, it was every bit worth the price of admission because I know lighting and I got up this morning at 4:30 to get ready to come to our have our 5:00 and we we don't normally do that twice in a week, but that's kind of how it's summer and we


08;04;50;07 - 08;04;36;06

Jon & Aaron

have these schedules and that's all I had to do. And I thought to myself too and week to week really have to do this again. You know, that's because it's already hard enough to do once, then twice and then get here like this better be good.


08;04;36;02 - 08;04;21;27

Jon & Aaron

No. That was the lab. But you know, there's a part in you go like this was like, Yeah, it's fair to say that was part of the accent. Yeah, yeah. On one hand, six Adobe Adobe. Get it. Sound like that's just for me.


08;04;21;24 - 08;04;05;09

Jon & Aaron

On the other hand, Typekit, we better maximize this price. Agreed. You know, we're both tired. We're both thinking about how we could be doing something easier. Yeah, but. We can make this something where it's I think we did that.


08;04;04;18 - 08;03;48;13

Jon & Aaron

You know, that's the goal. It is, I think, because it's uncomfortable and almost makes you want to show up. Yeah, because it's like, this really sucks. I'm doing this. I am certainly not going to sit around and do nothing that I could be sleeping, so I better be going to be worth it.


08;03;47;22 - 08;03;34;19

Jon & Aaron

I'm thinking about the example where you bought something versus owning something and the way you treat it like if you're renting. Unfortunately, I think most people don't care for it with the same level fidelity that they do here once they hold it.


08;03;34;04 - 08;03;23;26

Jon & Aaron

Right, right. If you own a house all sense like you walk on the line or whatever the thing is, you know, take your shoes off. It's like you've never had that. Yeah, but I bought this house, you know?


08;03;23;16 - 08;03;14;13

Jon & Aaron

Yeah, I'm great. I have a friend who had a really old car for a long time, and he just bought a new one. And they friends in the car and they were like, That's and they're going to start using it.


08;03;14;00 - 08;03;02;17

Jon & Aaron

And she yelled at them, she's like, What are you doing? I'm eating. It's you're not using in this car has never from before. I was like, I was before this car. That's right in your car. Yeah, you're not eating it.


08;03;02;17 - 08;02;45;17

Jon & Aaron

It's kind of that same thing, right? Like when you have something that costs you a lot, you value it more agreed in. You maximize what you can get out of it. I like to get people out of it because in my line of work, I'm moving people for running time all the time, and I will tell the


08;02;45;17 - 08;02;27;07

Jon & Aaron

guy especially that this will change you because now, like, what do you mean when you own something? It changes everything. I mean, you will. You're going to do stuff on a Saturday that you never thought. Like when you're writing, it's it's all about how to be comfortable when you own it.


08;02;26;21 - 08;02;11;17

Jon & Aaron

It's all about what can I do to make this better? And throw it yourself. Yeah, that's that's the joy, right? But there are times and I'm just thinking like, OK, question comfort, redefining imitation or why white question being comfortable?


08;02;11;17 - 08;01;52;04

Jon & Aaron

Because being comfortable is limiting you, right? Hmm. And when you start questioning your comfort, I think it gives me at least the courage to question my character. Yes, because if I'm questioning, why do I want to sleep in or why don't you sleep easy eating healthy foods, not exercising?


08;01;51;25 - 08;01;34;14

Jon & Aaron

These are like really taking the easier path on my work on a project or something. Those are like these comfortable things, right? That you're treating. What could be something lesser to avoid the discomfort or pain of investing the energy to have that better low range?


08;01;33;29 - 08;01;19;23

Jon & Aaron

So it's like, OK, if I start taking those shortcuts, I'm going to start getting contracts on how I evaluate myself. I'm going to start taking shortcuts elsewhere, writes Every everything in life is fairly slippery slope, in my opinion.


08;01;19;12 - 08;00;54;24

Jon & Aaron

Yeah, we talked about that this morning with how everything we're doing, the decision wise that, you know, getting up early or exercising early or the relationships that we're keeping an eye, we're really being in touch with us. How that's really changing everything it has is honestly toxic, but toxic has this kind of idea of like it affects


08;00;54;24 - 08;00;38;16

Jon & Aaron

everything. And in some way, in essence, this is what's happening with you. You're dropping sort of like die in the water and it's just dispersing everywhere and everything gets affected by it. And so it's more than a single decision.


08;00;38;07 - 08;00;18;28

Jon & Aaron

I'm tired, but I'm going to get up anyway. It's very familiar. When everything happens, it's uncomfortable. But how how an address, an argument with something, how I'm going to how I'm going to kiss my wife in the morning, not just passively, but very intensely how I think about people.


08;00;18;09 - 08;00;00;04

Jon & Aaron

Everything gets infected. It's pervasive. That's pervasive. Thank you. I'm digging in my head like, I want to say it's not negative, it's positive. So the basis of it, just me, right? And what's interesting is I'm thinking about just life in general.


09;59;59;21 - 09;59;44;22

Jon & Aaron

Things progress on each other. You know, I'm remembering when Jeremiah was born as my first child and I was very young with. There's moments where he had call it was crying and screaming. I was alone watching him because we're bouncing along.


09;59;44;10 - 09;59;33;14

Jon & Aaron

And it took me to my breaking point. I had to, like, sit on the ground, put my head between my knees, set him next to me, right? So I can't lose my temper or anything because I was losing my mind.


09;59;32;24 - 09;59;19;29

Jon & Aaron

I was exhausted, everything else, and it brought me to my breaking point. I just had to breathe until I got back. Come back up and keep on. Keep because he needed that right. Thankfully, I had the wherewithal to sit down, set him down, not shake him.


09;59;19;12 - 09;59;00;16

Jon & Aaron

You know, we're talking about real things here. That's not silver sugar coated. So it's like that was sort of an experiential thing, but by. Shoulder mapping of the responsibility, I am right, you see an interesting board, I chose to do what it took to make it right, so he owes me nothing.


09;59;00;16 - 09;58;46;11

Jon & Aaron

I I owe him everything. But you need to do the best I could, and it helped me become better in the next moment. And now and the reason I laugh about it, it's it's the things build on themselves now for kids.


09;58;45;28 - 09;58;28;16

Jon & Aaron

And after I've never had that type of breaking moment with any number of my children from one to four. Aside from just with hair, yeah, right. And it's not because of him. It's because of me. I was lacking in the vision, the skillset and capability to do that, but by continued passion, now the skill sets where it's


09;58;28;16 - 09;58;18;03

Jon & Aaron

like, Well, this is really aggravating, but that's life as the poor kids are burning the house and it's like, that's what we're talking about. You know, that's a tongue in cheek example of like, Well, yeah, was that uncomfortable?


09;58;18;03 - 09;58;01;22

Jon & Aaron

Yes. Was I running into my own limitations? You know, capabilities? Absolutely. But by questioning what is more valuable here, it's like the well-being of my son, right? In that moment specifically, I was able to redefine what my limit was.


09;58;01;22 - 09;57;45;15

Jon & Aaron

I'm asking you to deal with that stressful situation. You didn't know that you had that in you until it was incumbent upon you to do something about your situation right then. Yeah. And this is in me. Yeah. And even then it was just like, All right, well, nothing's going to fix it.


09;57;45;15 - 09;57;23;13

Jon & Aaron

So let's just take next step. You know, a lot of parents have that same narrative where they go, Oh, yeah, it's my second one was way easier. Were they easier? Or did you go through the baptism of fire, of having a first kid for the first time, having someone is completely reliant on you to complement that?


09;57;23;04 - 09;57;08;23

Jon & Aaron

Was it easier read or stronger? Right, exactly. I guess that's how my my wife is. And you're I'm just doing all my work. It's like, How do you do it? Like, how did you how do you how did you go from one to two to three or four?


09;57;08;23 - 09;56;57;08

Jon & Aaron

And it must be so hard. And it's like for us to go, you know, how do you get good at being the parent of four kids? You have three kids. Yeah, it's like twins. Yeah. So it's like you, yes.


09;56;56;22 - 09;56;37;27

Jon & Aaron

But it's like you go up and get better. But it's I kind of like in this example, like swinging through that, you know, if you're if you think of the baseball player getting ready the way he is going to really be awesome with one bat as you swing in those three and then the one feels like it's


09;56;37;27 - 09;56;24;27

Jon & Aaron

slider, is it actually let her know you just change your perception and you kind of lose your body and you're strong enough to do more than this nagant swing. That's really hard. And so I, yeah, I think that's the same.


09;56;24;26 - 09;56;05;25

Jon & Aaron

Kids are a great example of like burning out the selfishness, the desire to be comfortable. You don't get that luxury if you're really going to show up. That's absolutely correct. And I'm thinking here about this, so what? And what if this conversation, because there is a really strong point to it.


09;56;05;14 - 09;55;49;24

Jon & Aaron

You're doing this because it's relevant for us right now. Right now, we're challenging limitations in life, and that's the reason we to talking about today. And I think that the fruit of this conversation is that of others also challenge themselves to whatever next level they're working for.


09;55;49;21 - 09;55;35;19

Jon & Aaron

Right. Because we've been talk like you already illustrated twice the this better be good. You know, I'm finding that I'm fighting more towards comfortable things because I'm straining myself and feeling the weight of that load, and I'm not yet accustomed to you.


09;55;35;15 - 09;55;21;29

Jon & Aaron

Yeah. You know, so like, I think on the one hand, we're exploring the idea of the value of why it's worth it. On the other hand, it's like the actual steps and payoffs of choosing to say no to the easier option.


09;55;21;24 - 09;55;09;02

Jon & Aaron

Right? In in a moment, there's really two key takeaways that are happening are two applications actually of this one is in the moment and in the other. It's not in the future. So much as how do you see yourself?


09;55;08;02 - 09;54;49;24

Jon & Aaron

Because how you see yourself is how you play yourself out, right? And if the old adage what you think will become what you say and what you say, what you do and what you will do the same thing, it's like if I just want to be asleep and I feel tired at night, I feel tired.


09;54;49;24 - 09;54;34;10

Jon & Aaron

I feel tired as I keep thinking that I will embody the lack of motivation energy being exhausted, right? Because my focus is there. Yeah, I've heard it said what you think about experience? Well, yeah, yeah, I like that.


09;54;33;19 - 09;54;17;09

Jon & Aaron

It's the same feeling one way and not challenging. It will allow it to just take over. It's an enemy at the gate. You know, it's sort of a maybe you should do this and you know, well, hey, let's have a conversation with this voice and you lose.


09;54;17;02 - 09;53;57;10

Jon & Aaron

Mm hmm. Instead, note it's it's it's almost a preemptive strike in your mind, like I know. At 2:00 in the office, I'm going to hit a wall and start yawning, and that's what I'm going to start to kind of give up on the day, maybe I should start wrapping up mentally knowing I have three hours of work


09;53;57;10 - 09;53;45;23

Jon & Aaron

left, you know, for your day. You know, I'm sure I'm not alone. There's a reason why there's a four hour energy drink, whatever that's out there that we know you're going to hit a wall and you're not going to want to do this.


09;53;45;04 - 09;53;32;08

Jon & Aaron

OK, so if you know, then how is it? How are you going to change that mentality? Are you going to when it comes in, that voice says, you're tired. You should wrap up. You can coast normal. No. Who cares?


09;53;30;23 - 09;53;10;28

Jon & Aaron

What are you going to do that? You know, I think this goes back to where are you policing? How are you defining this body, right? Because because I was just thinking about the example you see which I will be able to meet, right, escaping the situation of shares now or caring for something that I care about, right


09;53;10;14 - 09;52;53;03

Jon & Aaron

? And it goes back to all of the fun that's valuable so that we can count the cost. See, it's worth it, sir. OK, so comparing is my rest more important than my push, correct? Because think about what this morning is like.


09;52;53;03 - 09;52;34;03

Jon & Aaron

Oh, second time this week so you can keep a weekly rhythm. This better be good. You're doing right there again. What's the cost? What's the risk reward announced this year? The risk is not sure. We don't have an episode and we don't have the the amazing conversations that we've had this great.


09;52;32;29 - 09;52;15;18

Jon & Aaron

You're right. So what's more valuable to us, the discomfort of waking up and coming or the conversations and experience that we're living through right now? That's a difficult thing. I feel like I'm suspicious after if I coasted through something, I really didn't challenge myself.


09;52;14;06 - 09;52;03;06

Jon & Aaron

And it's funny. It's as simple as like having a conversation with something that you should really show up if you really listen. Have that? Or do you walk away having a suspicion like I could have been like I was?


09;52;02;09 - 09;51;45;24

Jon & Aaron

I was sleepy and I let myself be sleeping in that I have a I have a driving motivation on that. OK, so we had this, we had this hike. That's that is the baptism in the congresswoman's life, and it's called the incline.


09;51;45;15 - 09;51;31;20

Jon & Aaron

Yes, we we tell visitors about it and they think we're crazy. It's over. It's over 2500 steps. I can't remember the exact number. It's a one mile hike. That's it. It's one mile, just under, just under. Is it just under one roof?


09;51;31;11 - 09;51;10;10

Jon & Aaron

Yeah. And it's but it's something like a several almost 20 foot incline or something. If I remember, that's if I remember correctly. It's just about a mile long. It's about a mile. Yeah, it's stairs. It's just it's rough road ties in the mountain base.


09;51;10;06 - 09;50;45;12

Jon & Aaron

It's just stairs, and it takes someone somewhere between 25 minutes and two hours to do it, depending on your age, your health level. Yeah. But it is. It's it's not. It's not just doing it for doing it. So it's because it's a mental exercise that I really enjoy it and going up it because I've done it before


09;50;45;05 - 09;50;30;17

Jon & Aaron

and finished it. As tired as you are on that same. There's always more in you. Because at the end of it, if you're if you're really thinking about it, you'll go any recovery you go and more. And I left.


09;50;29;07 - 09;50;14;00

Jon & Aaron

I quit on myself at some point, and I could have done better if you're if you're looking at time, that kind of stuff. I think there's a there's always this challenge of like, hey, you should pull back, you should coast, you should be comfortable right now.


09;50;13;26 - 09;50;01;08

Jon & Aaron

You deserve it. And there's a fight you really have to push back and go, no, I'm not going to be comfortable because I know on the other side of it, I'm a little back and go. I'm disappointed that I had a limit I could have.


09;50;00;22 - 09;49;47;24

Jon & Aaron

I didn't even hit my limit. Why? Why did I pull back on in the in the benefit? Also, you get to see the view from the top. You get a look at the steps you just conquered. Yes. And you get the reward of that victory, right?


09;49;47;16 - 09;49;34;03

Jon & Aaron

Yeah. And it's so funny. The whole way I deserve it, right? I composed my text, one of my buddies. The other night, we had just finished a conversation as a guy who's four in the afternoon of 6:00 a.m., already twelve hours of dedicated working.


09;49;33;21 - 09;49;19;24

Jon & Aaron

I've heard of You're right. And I was joking and I wasn't. And I wish to God. He had said that he would never say never a conversation or suggestion. They never garnered a response. But I wish you'd just been there.


09;49;19;12 - 09;49;05;10

Jon & Aaron

What do you mean? No, I wish you'd just say no because of my mindset as I'm thinking about what I'm saying, though like. You have more to give. Make sure that you're giving it in the things that you've got, right?


09;49;05;00 - 09;48;52;02

Jon & Aaron

Maybe you're done for this part of the day on these things you can rest in peace about it is the white. Why don't you invest now? You know, it's just it's kind of like, Well, if you want to do that as part of your festivities or restoration, that's fine.


09;48;52;00 - 09;48;31;07

Jon & Aaron

It's like, Do you deserve it? Of course you don't deserve it, not deserve the break. You deserve one breath of fresh air to push into the next thing without. Jon, I mean, this is this is an old. The old axiom is that the man gets to come home and kick his feet out because I worked all day


09;48;30;14 - 09;48;17;26

Jon & Aaron

. They were challenging that. Right now we're saying you don't deserve anything like you worked your eight, nine hours, good job. And so you're supposed to do the bare minimum in my mind, like you did that one just under feet.


09;48;17;10 - 09;48;03;03

Jon & Aaron

Yeah, it's under living. Yeah, yeah. If your day ends at 5:00, I really need you to challenge the rest of the four or five hours that you have left in the day. What are you going to do with it when it comes back to leadership, right?


09;48;03;01 - 09;47;46;18

Jon & Aaron

So two things you're one. I wanted to become more and more of a morning person and somehow find that we can't consistently be doing that for 4:30. I realized it's not because I want to wake up because 4:30, it's because I'm value things that I want to accomplish more than the sleep.


09;47;44;06 - 09;47;32;15

Jon & Aaron

Now I could use that justification on working for four, two, four, four or five. You know, that's already twelve, 13 hours to do the old adage of Let's keep my feet up and rest. But then I have to think, like, what if I'm a leader?


09;47;31;27 - 09;47;17;29

Jon & Aaron

Great for my family, then that's not the right mentality. From the moment my wife wakes up to the moment you go to bed, she's tending to issues for the home and for the kids before our lives keep working, you know?


09;47;16;10 - 09;47;03;10

Jon & Aaron

So in my mind, when I've challenged myself in for a long time and continue to do, it's like, OK, I'm done with this. Part of today's work is how I look at the transition from the office to home.


09;47;02;27 - 09;46;47;12

Jon & Aaron

Is this part today's work's done now? It's time for father has followed in homeowner mode, right? So it's a transition until I'm done for the day, but it's time for me to apply myself to where I need it years later, because guess what happens to my family?


09;46;47;10 - 09;46;32;12

Jon & Aaron

I don't do my job. They don't eat right. So does that make me special now in business? What's required of me? So when I get home is my wife, get to sit back and kick up or she's still working.


09;46;32;00 - 09;46;18;17

Jon & Aaron

Right, right. If I'm leaving, I'm not going to let someone in my home continue to toil because I had a long day at the office. Like in my mind, when you really think that's so ridiculous. But what do you mean?


09;46;18;17 - 09;46;06;24

Jon & Aaron

Like they've been they've been working just as long as you have, for the most part. More likely. Yeah, right? Like, have you woke up at the same time then whoever is in your home work working the same kind of message sitting right there, you don't deserve anything.


09;46;06;21 - 09;45;47;03

Jon & Aaron

You don't get special treatment. You make some money. OK? And a participation trophy, I mean, that's going to be talking about minimum all the way. I think we're having a we're this is this isn't are we talking about, you know, I talked about really looking at ourselves first.


09;45;46;19 - 09;45;27;13

Jon & Aaron

This is not this feels like I'm we're pointing out that we're playing ourselves like you. This is a rural retreat where we're just we just need to realize that this this comfortable voice in our heads is competing with greatness.


09;45;27;06 - 09;45;03;03

Jon & Aaron

You know, I don't feel like doing this. I want to do this. I want to back off like, you're not going to ever taste the really good stuff of life if you let that voice prevail. 100% agree. When we're lifting this morning, I heard a quote, one of the heavy rock songs you're listening to talk, it's the


09;45;03;03 - 09;44;46;03

Jon & Aaron

silver spoon will be your friend and I loved it. But I want to add to the silver spoon of entitlement that won't be your friend. You'll tell you it'll rob you of what you could be, right? Like, you set yourself up with that mentality and you will be.


09;44;45;00 - 09;44;26;16

Jon & Aaron

A version of yourself that is so superior on deathbed, then your life will immediately be filled with regret. Yeah, I always want to. I need a voice in my head and sometimes I need it. Sometimes I need a Jon Mayer or somebody to tell me because I want to ask you, Jon.


09;44;26;09 - 09;44;08;28

Jon & Aaron

Like in the gym of life and I'm there and I did. You know, I'm doing my my set? Yeah. And then I say, is that all I got is that is that everything? Yeah, and you're saying, no, you haven't won.


09;44;08;19 - 09;43;53;22

Jon & Aaron

You know, I think I have one more. You said, I know you got 51. Yeah. You know, these are the gym partners that like absolutely making crushed breaks in ice and in life should be no different. Is that all you got?


09;43;53;04 - 09;43;37;22

Jon & Aaron

Is that everything? Well, it comes back to a sound body is going to sound mind is better, but sound character is the pursuit because it's the sum of the whole is the sum of all the parts. Right? Yes.


09;43;37;12 - 09;43;20;23

Jon & Aaron

And the reason that fitness is just a means to an end. Right. If we push each other in the gym, then we ought to be pushing each other like it's like they had this conversation. And this is what I'm saying and think of how did I give it my all in my off answer?


09;43;20;08 - 09;43;06;26

Jon & Aaron

You did not give it your all. You were off. I love you. Push into that more. Yeah, let's fix that. Let's make it something valuable. Right? And then it's like, OK. And what's fun about is now we're encouraging each other to be better men.


09;43;06;20 - 09;42;46;28

Jon & Aaron

And because of that, we're better husbands, better fathers. And because of that, we're better serving our community. That's kind of Neato in my Jon. I love the fact that you could we could change, challenge how we're looking even at things in the past like that.


09;42;46;10 - 09;42;25;11

Jon & Aaron

We had a conversation about the conversation I had with somebody that I love very much. And. The just what you say. I give it my all. What what what could have happened and did it and unclear is a code come to you and say, Hey, I need to be validated and everything I said.


09;42;23;28 - 09;42;08;18

Jon & Aaron

Let me tell you what I said and then and then I do this, you know, I mean voice. And then they said, and it's very gossipy, right? We've all falling into the trap that like, Oh yeah, I mean, you know, gosh, they're way better today, and it'd just crucify the person.


09;42;08;09 - 09;41;47;25

Jon & Aaron

And really, the story isn't right anyway. It's weighted heavily on whatever you did. But that didn't happen was me saying, hey, I said this on my ass. And you said, Yeah, this is how you sound to me. And then when I heard it, I go, Oh, well, that's not right, because I really what I sounded like.


09;41;47;04 - 09;41;30;03

Jon & Aaron

And then that's an uncomfortable conversation that's really challenging whether or not I am doing something correctly. And then it feels very off putting because now I realize there's a deficiency. Now I got to work on it. Yeah. But because of that?


09;41;29;03 - 09;41;06;29

Jon & Aaron

You're helping me find a new limit like I kind of had. I found a limit in my insufficiency. Mm-Hmm. OK, we're going to do differently. We're going to push past that. 100% and looking at that. So we've talked about three types of comfort to question so that we can live more vibrant lives.


09;41;06;18 - 09;40;50;01

Jon & Aaron

That's the premise here. one was in the trade offs we're making with ourselves to avoid discomfort for something greater value. You have to define your value. The second one is how you continue to have that internal dialog will shape how you see yourself.


09;40;49;27 - 09;40;27;21

Jon & Aaron

You know, the way you put it is what you think about expands until it is you. Right? And then the third one is even conversational relational, right? Having those constructive conversations that analyze the situation so that you can learn from it better helps you then to engage on that emotional intelligence and relational right.


09;40;27;20 - 09;40;12;21

Jon & Aaron

So there's three there that the only other thing I can think of before we wrap this back up is what type of comfort or what type of discomfort should you challenge, right? Or when should you pursue a better alternative to what you're experiencing?


09;40;12;20 - 09;39;54;29

Jon & Aaron

And I think that if you're in pain for no reason and it's not benefiting you in any way, then don't increase your pain to address it. Right? That's good. You know, that's good because I don't mind being in pain if it were a trade off.


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Jon & Aaron

Yeah, but if I'm in pain for that reason, I have an issue and I may need to create an ending in Hornstock or something like that, right? But it shouldn't just increase my pain tolerance to avoid it, to be in this, where it comes back to question comfort, to avoid the discomfort of changing the circumstances so that


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Jon & Aaron

we're actually more exact. That's great. Thanks for wrapping it up. That we have a nervous system for a reason and it tells you the difference between pain and you're just tired. And I think the reason most people stay in unhealthy.


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Jon & Aaron

Painful situations is because of how uncomfortable it may be for them to charge their identity or the relationships that would cause them to get to a healthier place where they're making a good tradeoff between discomfort value. And that's that's the other the other place to be your comfort.


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Jon & Aaron

What exactly is going to pull that burden off so you can find the other side where the true, true freedom exists?

 

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